10 Things You Can Say When People Ask You Why You’re Not Drinking
#10 You’re training to climb a mountain
People will ask you why you’re not drinking.
You can’t let that stop you from not drinking.
Maybe you’re not worried about it. You’re happy to share that alcohol was ruining your life and you’re done with it.
But maybe you’re not ready yet. That’s perfectly OK. You really don’t owe anyone an explanation.
So, if you don’t want to draw too much attention to yourself or end up with those weird, awkward pauses, what can you tell people?
I’ve found one of the very best things to say is that you’re not drinking for your health. The word “detox” is a trendy one, and people understand and accept this.
Even if it’s not the main reason or the only reason, it’s not a lie.
You are detoxing and it is for your health!
Other “acceptable” reasons to quit drinking that people typically won’t question are:
high blood pressure
sleep habits
mental clarity
As long as it’s health-related, people tend to be more accepting and ask fewer questions.
Need some more ideas?
10 responses you can use when people ask why you’re not drinking:
I have a busy day tomorrow and need to sleep well tonight.
Alcohol fogs up my brain too much.
I’m detoxing.
I’m trying to lose a few pounds for… (fill in the blank).
Alcohol gives me diarrhea.
I’m designated driver tonight.
Alcohol bloats me and this shirt is too tight for that.
I don’t like the taste.
I don’t feel like it.
I’m training to climb a mountain.
Here’s a bonus one: I’m a teetotaler.
Half the people won’t know what that is or want to explore it further.
Crickets and Condemnation
It sucks that you can’t simply say alcohol is ruining your life. But usually, people out having a fun time don’t want to hear such things.
As soon as you mention you have an addiction or that it’s spiritual and you want to be closer to Jesus, crickets.
Or condemnation if you’re talking to a teetotaler.
And neither of those are helpful in the early days of sobriety.
You Can’t Blow Off Everyone
There are some people you need to tell. Maybe a partner so they won’t pressure you. Maybe someone you want to be an example to. And it’s absolutely nothing to be ashamed of, so go ahead if the situation seems appropriate.
On the other hand, there are many people who are just passing through your life, and you don’t owe them or need to give some big explanation.
Later, when you’re feeling stronger, and when the time is right, maybe your story bringing a little conviction or curiosity to someone else will be OK.
In the early days though, it’s perfectly OK to survive, and that might mean saying alcohol makes your eyes cross.
Someday really soon, you’ll be strong enough to share your whole journey with those that need to hear it. That will be exciting.
